Have you looked in the mirror lately?

Have you ever been faced with a decision? A decision that has no right nor wrong. A decision that holds merit whichever choice is chosen? A decision that has both pro's and con's and despite them looking drastically different can both could teach valuable lessons and strengthen one's character. What do you do in these situations? Do you talk it through with others? Do you go with your gut? Do you go with your brain? Do you choose the easier route? The less risky route? Or do you go against the flow? Choosing the route less traveled, or a bit unkown. Are the voices within clear? Or do they blend together like a night shapshot of a busy freeway?

If you do talk with others, do they truly listen? Do they truly give you "good" advice? Or do they merely give you advice that they would do. That they think is best. I often sit back after conversations and say to myself, did that person even hear a fucking word that I said? My generation is quicker, fuller, wittier, more sarcastic, and impatient than ever before, in my opinion. This is not a bad thing in and of itself. Technology is ridiculously amazing when I slow my mind down and actually think how cell phones, skype, iPad's, GPS, satellite tracking in the everyone's palm, etc, actually function. I have access to any knowledge I may desire in the blink of an eye. I love the era that I live. But, sometimes it confuses me. Sometimes I hear to much. Voices are always whispering and more often or not they are yelling. Yelling loudly, vigorously, dogmatically, pridefully, arrogantly, and in their "mental reverberations" always correctly. If you are anything like me. I enjoy talking through thoughts and ideas. Ideas help produce greatness. However, it takes a special individual to listen and not speak. It takes someone who stops their lives, and truly taps into yours to understand what voice you need to hear. Why is it that when one is faced with a decision of their own, the only voice they can't hear amidst the multitudes is such that, their own. Is it past guilt from others? Is it insecurity or fear of what the decision may bring in the future? Is it a lack of desire? Is it a lack of intuition? Sure, all these could be a player. However, sometimes I think it is that one know's the world and others better than oneself. I sadly find myself here at times, and for lack of better linguistics, it SUCKS! We are all human. We are all unique. Each individual has something to offer, maybe even a multitude of things to offer the world and others. Therefore, why does one not know which route to go? Are too many options just that...too many?

THINK ABOUT THIS SENTENCE: Are too many options just that, too many? Was the church correct when they taught us we had to die to ourself and think of others first? Sure that premise seems nice, but shit, can't it be even more detrimental in the long run? If you never think about yourself, you never take care of yourself, and you then never have anything to give to another. It is kind of an oxymoron the more I think about it. If one is thinking about what other people want, rather than what they want, quite frankly I think one will get screwed over more times than not. Now please don't take me irrationally. I am not promoting selfishness. But I am promoting self love. I am promoting self care. I am promoting self belief. For if one doesn't believe in the voice within, how are they ever going to know which of the millions voices without to believe? One of my favorite bands sings this line: "You better stand for something, or you'll fall for anything." Well my friends, I propose we stand for ourselves. I propose we stand for the betterment of ourselves. And it's sad that I must explain what betterment to me looks like, but it is of such: Health, Clarity, Peace, Openess, Love, Consciousness, Optimism, Honesty, and Encouragement. With that, if you are ever struggling with a decision and don't know what to do. Stop and think, what is best for the betterment of me? Because, whenever you become better, you gain more to give away. But the moment you make a decision that makes another happier than you, is the moment that you begin to lose part of you and frankly, that makes me mad. Everyone is beautiful, and everyone has something to offer. Don't let another take that away from you. Here's to making the most of who we are, so that we can share that with the world around us! And remember, next time someone needs advice, stop and think how to get them to find what is best for them, because most of the time they look different from you. If you don't believe, just have someone, anyone stand next to you in front of a mirror!

I read a quote the other day about Steve Jobs. I can't recall it exactly, but the point withstood. He said: The day you look in the mirror and don't like what you see is the day you change who you see and start doing something different.

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